Monday, April 16, 2012

I just apologized to a former date

UPDATE: he did write back and was very nice about it.

Last summer I had been on a few dates with a really great guy. I started seeing Dave because we were further on in our dating relationship and dating more than one person makes me nervous. Instead of being honest with this guy I dropped off the face of the planet. What a horrible thing to do! I hate when a guy does that to me and I did that to this guy. I've actually thought about him quite a bit lately, I still have his number in my phone. I can't just text him out of the blue though. But today I saw that he's doing online dating again.

I panicked. I felt guilty all over again for what I did. So I decided to suck it up and send him a message on the site. I didn't make excuses I just told him that I was sorry and it was really horrible of me to do. He probably won't respond but I at least hope that he knows how bad I feel. I know if the situation were reversed I'd be like "screw this person!" I vow to never do that to a guy again. EVER. I'm sure I ruined my chances with him which sucks because we got along so well. Live and learn right?

I will never do that again. I ruined something that could have been great. I will not fall back into old patterns. Nice guys don't deserve that.

8 comments:

  1. We all do things we later regret, and sometimes it just is like that , and sometimes we get over it and sometimes we don't. But shit happens, and now you know to not do it again.

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  2. Don't beat yourself up, we all make mistakes. I think being honest was the best decision. :)

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  3. yeah, you've probably blown it, but at least you messaged him without any excuses and owned up to your mistake. that takes guts.

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  4. Don't be too hard on yourself, doing the right thing later is better than doing the right thing never, amirite?

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  5. Thank you for apologizing. I know we all do things that we don't mean to do, and don't beat yourself up -- but this is one of my ultimate dating pet peeves. It just sucks, and gives you the whole "what's so wrong with me" complex.

    You have no idea how much I appreciate this.

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  6. Well I'm glad you apologised if you felt bad over it. Also that you had the chance to. Some people don't get that.

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  7. Even if he doesn't respond, it always helps to get things like that off your chest! Good for you!

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  8. Well done on apologising! That takes balls sometimes. I hope he gets back to you. x

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